” I am getting married but don’t know where to start my preparations from”
This statement is usually one out of many of most brides to be ‘s litany.
They are excited about their upcoming nuptials , yet at the same time overwhelmed by the many plans they have to make.
If you fall into the above group, Best wishes, dear, you do not need to fret.
Really there is no need to worry, just try to answer the following as best as possible and you will discover the plans come together as well as you want them to be.
1. Have you set the date and budget yet?
The date and budget are the two most important considerations for any wedding to take off, the date can be changed , but at least there should be a period fixed , setting a date makes your pending wedding ceremony seem more real, now you have a timeline to work with . The budget also helps in making realistic expectations, no one wants to finish with the wedding and goes hungry after or starts looking for house rent to pay, so the money at hand, that can be saved or realistically sourced should determine how much will be spent on the wedding. Never rely on one uncle’s or aunty’s or cousin’s money somewhere that was promised to you, if eventually it comes, it should be an added bonus, not the main crux that the whole wedding is hinged on.
2. Have you picked your wedding colors?
Choose colors you are most comfortable with , consider yours and your spouse favorite colors, colors of the season, what is trending, the accessories and wedding theme, all these have considerable influence on the final colours you choose.
3. Have you booked the venue where the main ceremony will take place and a nearby location to host the reception?
Determine whether you have to reserve or book ahead the rental equipment, chairs, sound system, marquee, hall . How accessible is the venue for guests in terms of location, finding transportation, is it easy to find directions , are there restrictions, in house security, parking space, touts? Does the venue allow food and drinks to be brought fin from outside or is inside catering? Is there constant electricity or alternate power source, what is the duration of hours allowed for your ceremony? Do you pay extra charges for extra time spent, decorators setup? Is the place soundproof, open space or indoors?
Your preference and the venue’s benefits will determine your choice of venue.
4. Which vendors are you using or you trust the judgement of the event planner ?
Food and drinks, music, wedding compere, photography, drivers, decorator.
Have you booked to have that particular caterer you’ve heard wonderful stories about, before someone else, makes her unavailable on your day? Discuss your menu with her/him. Is she/he going to be baking your cake or will you just order a beautiful one? Oh, also check in with your vendors: confirm arrival and delivery times. Also, do not forget to make arrangement for people to serve and maybe ushers too. Yes, they’re different. Dont hire a vendor in the hope of him/her taking on more than the job(s) you signed him/ her for. Have clear contract and agreement written out stating who is responsible for what.
What about your MC, a DJ/live band, a photographer, a videographer? Give a list of important shots to take, to your wedding photographer. You get the drift– colleagues, school mates, association members, family and so on.
Who’s gonna decorate the hall, the cars? The ambiance really matters, choose a special wedding theme and let it form the basis of the venue styling and design.
Confirm which cars (2 or 3) and drivers, will be taking you, your groom, your train and maybe parents , to all the venues. Someone might need to coordinate the parking at the venue’s parking lot too.
5. What about the guest list and how do you want to invite your friends and family?
No matter how small low key a wedding is , guests still need to be informed. Are you doing word of mouth, sms , sending emails or printing invites. How will you get them across? Ensure you inform your guest early to avoid late rush and disappointments.
What does your guest list look like? D’you think more than a 100 or 1000 people will show up? Or are you going to make it strictly-by-invitation, to help you impede chaos, even better? How are they going to sit? Just anywhere? This is when ushers will be of great advantage to help you sort out the seating arrangement and assist guests.
Would you need to hire hotel rooms for out of town invitees? Get the names and costs of nearby hotel rooms.
6. What does your religious / local marriage institution require of you? Have you done them yet ?
- Wedding vows – Either you get creative and write yours or you adapt pre written vows for your own use.
- Blood and genotype tests
- Court affidavits
- Marriage license application
- Birth / divorce/ age declaration certificate
- Wedding announcements in local papers or media
- Change of name
7. What will your guests be wearing and what do you intend to give them ?
P:S Remember to keep mementos of your wedding, at least a copy of your Invitation card, church program for you and your spouse, the wedding souvenirs like jotter, calendar or any thing that was customized for the wedding for keepsake and to keep the fond memories of the happy moments. Stay happy all through, dont over work yourself, get into unnecessary arguments, and have lots of beauty sleep.
To help you with the planning, get a notebook, or on your ipad, save your answers to the above questions and add your notes as you review them.
Best wishes, dear!